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    New to Seattle? Here are 7 ways to make friends

    We've got tips for thawing the Seattle Freeze.
    Impact Hub Seattle is a place to work, and network.

    Impact Hub Seattle is a place to work, and network. Credit: sharedesk.net

    The Seattle freeze isn’t only the talk of dispirited singles or newcomers from faraway lands. It’s also a topic among homeless youth.

    At the ROOTS Young Adult Shelter an 18-year-old man who recently moved from California to Seattle asked me, “What’s the Seattle freeze?” As if he knew I’d been crawling from coffee shop to bus stop to bar (unsuccessfully) for weeks asking people that same question.

    There was a counter between us and my plastic glove interfered with our handshake. I gave him his first hot meal of the day, fresh from two minutes in the microwave. He showed me the tattoos on his arms, one reading “love is not love until it’s given away.” But we had more similarities than differences. Only one year apart and both new to Seattle, we were battling that Seattle aloofness.

    The Seattle Freeze is a well-documented phenomenon, the inspiration for magazine articles, eight Urban Dictionary posts and a Meetup group with almost 5,000 members. Like the bumper sticker proclaiming, “Have a nice day … somewhere else,” the Freeze, Crosscut's Mossback columnist Knute Berger explained on KUOW, is “the surprisingly cold nature of Seattle residents towards newcomers." Freeze believers blame the weather, the nerdy techies streaming in and the fact that many natives claim Nordic heritage (in fact, Nordicians make up only 7.4 percent of Seattle’s population).

    One psychological study that mapped personality traits across the country gave Washingtonians high marks for openness, but ranked us 48th in extraversion. Apparently Seattleites can’t even ask their neighbors for sugar. The 2014 Civic Health Index report ranked Seattle 48th among 51 comparable metropolitan areas for “talking with neighbors frequently” and 37th for “giving or receiving favors from neighbors frequently.”

    Be that as it may. Jessica Buxbaum, a 22-year-old transplant, and my own 19-year-old newcomer self did not venture to Seattle this summer to wallow in self pity. We are determined to unthaw the city and ourselves. Here’s our list of groups and events that are helping us — and hopefully you — meet the frozen:

    1. Greendrinks is pretty self-explanatory. Have a cocktail and discuss green issues … or not. At our first Greendrinks event, we met a few eco-conscious gals (one sipping beer out of a mason jar) who told us about art therapy, bodybuilding competitions and the best thrift shops in town. Greendrinks, managed by a nonprofit called Sustainable Seattle, is a way of connecting the city’s environmentalists and growing the green community, while enjoying free Snoqualmie Ice Cream (sometimes). Every second Tuesday of the month at 5:30 p.m., Seattle Greendrinks hosts an informal gathering to introduce new members to old. Alcohol and food are served — for a suggested donation. To get on the invite list, visit the Greendrinks website or join their Facebook group page.

    2. Underdog Sports is for people who like games which involve balls — bowling, cornhole, bocce, dodgeball, flag football, kickball, futbal, mini golf, softball, volleyball — and communication, in forms such as, “Hey, want to grab a drink after the game?” You don’t have to be athletic, or even competitive to enjoy Underdog Sports, says Crosscut's Development Director, Tamara Power-Drutis, who snagged a best friend and a roommate by joining a beach volleyball team. A relationship based on shared sand and sweat quickly led to more frequent off-court gatherings involving movies, canoeing and holiday parties, she says. You can sign up as an individual for about $45-$85, or as a team for about $195-$995. Power-Drutis recommends the individual route, because it forces you to interact with random people. Teams are usually co-ed, consisting of mostly people in their twenties and thirties. Visit Underdog's website to sign up for leagues in various locations around town. Leagues accommodate a variety of schedules and skill levels.

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    Posted Mon, Jun 23, 8:09 a.m. Inappropriate

    The problem in Seattle is you have a lot of people who don't know the difference between thinking they are smart and being smart. High IQs combined with low EQs.

    Half of the city seems to be borderline Asperger cases.


    Posted Mon, Jun 23, 10:32 a.m. Inappropriate

    I'm being picky, but I expect reasonably correct English from news publications. The headline contains a glaring singular/plural error.

    Our use of English in public is going down hill fast enough, without editors contributing to that decline.

    Posted Mon, Jun 23, 11:08 a.m. Inappropriate

    It's not an error — it's a colloquialism.

    People have been saying language is in decline for thousands of years. It's unlikely they are finally right. And if they are, I really don't think this headline is an example of it.

    As far as the actual topic goes, this is a set of activities which is apparently geared toward one type of person. I'd also note that the Seattle Freeze is by no means native vs. newcomer — lifelong residents such as myself suffer from it as much as anyone else.

    I can say that the closest friends I've made here since high school have been from work: specifically, my just over five years at Amazon a decade ago. I've done organized activities here and there, but not much has ever come from that. My advice: make an effort to talk to the people you work with, and don't be afraid to make outside-of-work friends with them.

    Posted Mon, Jun 23, 11:40 a.m. Inappropriate

    Remember when politics was the LAST refuge of scoundrels? Sigh.


    Posted Mon, Jun 23, 10:32 p.m. Inappropriate

    "You can teach seniors how to tap keyboards"? Yay for the ageist elitism.


    Posted Tue, Jun 24, 10:07 a.m. Inappropriate

    Poli Sci. Arrogance is a prerequisite.


    Posted Tue, Jun 24, 7:14 p.m. Inappropriate

    Our 19 or 20 year old author of this piece has 5 out if 7 'things to do if new in Seattle' that involve beer or wine or cocktails .

    I guess she hasn't discovered Washington's drinking age is 21.

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