Podcast: How abused children become neglectful parents
Judy Lightfoot grew up with an abusive mother and a neglectful father. The only place she felt safe was at school, where she excelled. Small wonder she went on to become a teacher.
None of Judy's teachers knew about her home life. "There's so much abuse that goes on behind closed doors that the community just doesn't see if the family's isolated," she said. "And my family was."
Judy shared her personal story with me, radio host Katy Sewall. Together we explored how her troubled childhood unconsciously shaped her ideas about parenting and her relationship with her own children when they were young.
"I withdrew from my kids," Judy told me. "I withdrew from them emotionally. All the things you're supposed to do with a baby, like go 'oh you're so beautiful, you're so cute,' I couldn't do. I just couldn't do it, because for me to be that open with a child meant putting that child in terrible danger."